Posts Tagged “designing life”

Remember The Salt

Ever wonder the origin of the phrase “take it with a grain of salt?” I recently did a bit of research* (meaning I Googled it), and here’s what I found out…

It originated in the first century with Pliney the Elder. Pliney led an amazing life, and he had a real knack for writing.** He wrote a great deal about philosophy and natural history. One of the subjects he wrote about was poison, for it seems that back in Ole’ Pliny’s day, a good deal of one’s energy was devoted to avoiding death by poison. Maybe it was poison slipped to you via some enemy, or maybe it was poison delivered via some piece of undercooked meat. Either way, dealing with poison must have been a fairly regular occurrence because Pliney had his own tried and true concoction to protect against this. He wrote:

Take two dried walnuts, two figs, and twenty leaves of rue; pound them all together, with the addition of a grain of salt; if a person takes this mixture fasting, he will be proof against all poisons for that day.

If I’m understanding this correctly, according to Pliney, if we grind the recommended nuts, figs and leaves together and take them on an empty stomach along with that magic grain of salt, we’ll be safe. Maybe it’s because it was the final ingredient, or maybe it’s because it seems so bizarrely precise that a single grain of anything could have an impact, but it’s the grain of salt we reference when we want a metaphor for protecting ourselves from any sentiment that could damage us, intentionally or not. It’s a fair warning, passed on to us through centuries of collective human wisdom, that what we say to each other can do just as much damage as poison, and that we might want to inoculate ourselves. It’s a reminder to take stock and make sure our priorities are straight and our convictions are internalized before considering another’s opinion. It’s quite likely the advice isn’t meant to do harm, but just because someone’s not an enemy doesn’t mean their sentiments aren’t careless or simply “undercooked.”

there’s more...

My Take On Talking TED

Maybe you’ve already seen this, but for the official Lucky So And So record, here’s my Talk about buying nothing new and the life lessons it’s provided me (in exactly 5 minutes and 25 seconds). I gave this on March 3, 2011 at TEDActive as a part of TEDYou, which is where conference attendees get to submit an idea for their own short Talk, and if selected, present on stage. I learned over 100 attendees submitted their ideas, and I seem to remember about 30 presentations. Being selected was accomplishment enough for me, and I NEVER expected my Talk to actually make it onto TED.com!

How does one learn their Talk is going live on the homepage of TED.com, a site visited by something like three-quarters of a million people daily? Well, I can only tell you my story…

there’s more...

Here Goes

Alternate titles for this post: Less Hang Ups and More Finishing or I Probably Owe You a Thank You Note or A Long Post on Perfectionism

I’m a perfectionist.

I know, I know that sounds sexy, doesn’t it? The word “perfect” is right there at the front of it. But much like being a super taster isn’t super (there’s no cape involved), being a perfectionist is not about actually being perfect. It’s more about the fear that nothing you do is ever going to be good enough. What “good enough” really means is unclear but that doesn’t keep you from obsessing over being it. Symptoms include stress, procrastination, stress over the procrastination, sense of worthlessness, sense of guilt, extreme sense of guilt over the sense of worthlessness, denial, zoning out, moodiness, hyper-distractability (wait, I think I see something shiny over there that has the potential to be be perfect), a special kind of passive agressivity that is only acceptable when directed at people who love you most, and stress.

My perfectionism means that if something I’m working on can’t be really super amazing, then I often end up deciding I’d rather just give up. Though “deciding” isn’t the right word. You don’t really “decide” not to finish a term paper. You just write and rewrite and start over again until you miss the deadline and then the extended deadline and end up with an “I” for incomplete. Sometimes I give up on things in the middle, and sometimes I give up before I even start. Are you thinking that it makes more sense to finish something and have it be average rather than not finish at all? I’d have to agree, but being a perfectionist is not about being rational. It’s about having a voice in my head; it’s a mean voice and it berates me for not being better. Oh you nasty, nasty Voice. That voice has almost kept this post from happening at least four separate times over the course of five days. Sometimes the Voice comes with its own series of chastising images…

there’s more...

I’ve Got A Sweet Rainbow Hangover

And there ain’t no cure. Please be patient with me as I figure out how to process all the joy that was my birthday, find the words to thank everyone who participated in both the Hole Sale and the Rainbow Birthday Parade, and figure out a way to share everything all those who could only be there in spirit.

Rainbow Birthday Euphoria

Rainbow Birthday Parade Chromatic Line

You’d never know it from all the smiles, but the absurd windiness of the day was blowing freezing rain in our faces. All I can think is I am SUCH a lucky so and so.

Thanks for taking these photos, Jason Hawkins (top) and Jason Santa Maria (lower two).

Hole Sale and Rainbow Birthday Spectacular

Dear glorious vintage shoes, I shall miss you!

I hope you’ve heard by now: this Saturday on my thirty-second birthday, I’m getting rid of over 400 items from my wardrobe! As challenging as it might be, it’s got to happen if I want to get down to the 100-items-or-less closet. I felt I needed to find a way to let go while also celebrating my birthday, and true to my nature, the whole thing has turned into a crazy, hopefully wonderful production.

Through an outstanding collaboration with the DUMBO Improvement District that still seems too amazing to be true, my birthday has become the Hole Sale and Rainbow Birthday Spectacular, and it will be held on April 16 in the Archway Under the Manhattan Bridge (a.k.a. The Bridge Hole). There will be second-hand items to purchase, rainbows to wear and eat, music to parade to, and girls to send to rock camp. Does this all seem a bit confusing? I hear you. There is a lot going on! So here’s a handy dandy guide to help clarify…

Instructions for a Hole Sale and Rainbow Birthday Spectacular

  1. Dress yourself head to toe in a single, bright color. Or at least give it your best shot!
  2. Have your spring cleaning done and set aside any items* you no longer need.
  3. Show up at the Archway Under the Manhattan Bridge, a.k.a. the Bridge Hole, to donate said items.
  4. Buy some awesome second-hand stuff.
  5. Maybe eat a rainbow cupcake.
  6. Feel awesome because the stuff buying you just did benefits Willie Mae Rock Camp for Girls. And because you ate a rainbow cupcake.
  7. Hear 12-year-old Tiger Bey performs her original song, Willow Tree, complete with rainbow lyrics. (1pm)
  8. Have your rainbow photo taken by Erin Sparling.
  9. Make an appearance in the rainbow video being made by Sunny Jang.
  10. Situate yourself in chromatic order and be a part of the Rainbow Birthday Parade, that’s right PARADE, with Raya Brass Band. (2pm)
  11. Buy more stuff. Feel even awesomer.
  12. Head to Superfine for a post-event drink. It should probably be a rainbow drink of some sort. (5pm)

*If an one item is bigger than a Thanksgiving turkey, you probably shouldn’t bring it for the reason that it will be difficult to cart away if it doesn’t sell.

there’s more...

100 Items or Less

On March 15, my friend and Studiomate Chris Shiflett put out a call for his readers to write the Ideas of March as a commitment to substantive blog posts. I asked him what I should write about. I don’t usually tackle what others in our webby community would consider stimulating, educational or controversal (although if you knew what actually went on in my head, you’d agree that everything I write is actually all three for me on a personal level). He said, “You have lots of ideas. Just write one of them down.” I decided to choose a subject I’ve been avoiding for a long time and see if I could come up with any fresh ideas worth sharing. True, I had a few drinks, but I must have been inspired because I ended up envisioning what amounts to a major overhaul of important yet neglected area of my life. So without further ado, here’s my contribution to the Ideas of March, and true to my nature, I’ve posted it without a day to spare. 1 hour to imagine; 5 hours to distill and write; an estimated 50 hours of action required.

I have over 500 items of clothing in my possession. And that’s a conservative estimate that doesn’t include my three costume bins. In contrast, I live in a 547-square-foot studio. With one closet. And another human being. Who also likes to wear the occasional piece of clothing. Currently, there’s a stack (or if I’m being painfully honest, two or three stacks) of clothing siting on the floor outside the closet waiting to be shoved back in somewhere that doesn’t really exist. If we’ve met, it’s not hard to imagine how things got this way. I have an eye for colorful, quirky and whimsical clothing, and my passion in life is finding it second-hand. If I come across an amazing piece and it’s under $20, it’s as if I’m on a Mission from God to bring it home, style it up and wear the hell out of it.

As much as I love being able to dress to suit any possible mood, and goodness knows I’ve got many, I don’t love the effect it has on my living space. Meanwhile, everything else in my life is sort of on a roll. I’m working hard to simplify, sort out, consolidate and shed. I’m traveling. I’m designing. I’m writing. I feel closer to becoming the best person I can be, my true self, with each passing day. But my closet remains a bloated mess, and for someone who loves expressing herself through what she wears, that seems like a huge contradiction.

In an attempt to find a solution, I decided to take a page from Sarah Kay and list THREE THINGS I know to be true…

there’s more...

South By Southwest Bound

If you haven’t already, watch this terrific video featuring my friend Alex Blagg of a bajillionhitz.biz.

So this is where we’re headed for the next 5 days… You tell me, should I be worried?

Truly, I’m just happy I’ll get to reunite with some of my Studiomates (past, present and future). Man, I’ve really missed them! Plus I’ll get to hang for the first time with some of the people I’ve fallen in love with over the Internet, like Alissa Walker. And let’s not forget there’s reconnecting with some of my new friends from TEDActive, like Kestrin, Jonathan and Scott of {RV}IP. Yes, {RV}IP is a karaoke lounge inside an RV. No joke. Here’s Creighton in the RV, singing karaoke, as we go barreling down the California freeway at a top speed of 45 mph just one week ago today (good times)...

there’s more...

Week’s Worth of Undies

It seemed simple enough… I’ll go on a trip, and the only thing I’ll pack in a tiny suitcase is the underwear I’ll need. All other clothing will be procured at thrift stores once I arrive at my destination. I’ll wear it, photograph it and have a grand ole time with it, but then I’ve got to give it away, returning home with only my original undies.

But what ensued was awesomeness on a level I’m not even sure I’m capable of processing. Let’s just say, short of every person I love having landed next to me in a giant rainbow-colored hot air balloon, I don’t see how life could have gotten any better.

In Summary:
10 Thrift Stores + $275 + A Week in the California Desert + 600 Incredible Folks + 1 Three-Minute Talk = AWESOMENESS OVERLOAD!

I have to attribute much of the magic of the week to where I chose to carry out this project for the first time: TEDActive in Palm Springs. That’s a yearly gathering of more than 600 uniquely intense and beautiful people out in the California desert. We watch TED2011 as it’s simulcast from Long Beach, meet one another, go on field trips, swim, bike, eat, dance and have a generally amazing time. What made this TED truly special was that we (WORKSHOP) actually worked with TED to create the visual identity for this year’s conference, The Rediscovery of Wonder. So as we were walking about, we got to see our design on posters, guide books, signage, iPad apps and more.

The most exciting yet nerve-wracking part of the week was that I was selected to give a TEDYou Talk about the Undies Project. Yippie and yikes at the same time! It was a lot of work for me and Josh to get up at 6:30 every morning to take photos of the outfits before each day got started. Plus I agonized over the words, the slides, pretty much every aspect of the presentation; you name it, I second-guessed myself. But in the end, the Talk felt like a huge triumph! So many people showered me with love, and I started to realize for the first time that my outfit obsession and quest to be true to myself could actually inspire others, particularly those brave souls known as teenage girls. 

Giving TEDYou Talk
On stage at TEDActive! photo credit: Michael Brands / TED

Get ready, because I’m about to post the 7 outfits (plus the set of pajamas) I found to wear during this unforgettable week.

there’s more...

Forever Young

Living in Brooklyn, most of the people I interact with are somewhere between their twenties and fifties. But being back home for the holidays, conversations and activities tend to revolve around what babies have been born, who’s passing on and who’s past. Mantles overflowing with family photo Christmas cards in all the homes I visit are a testament to the births. Obituaries filling nearly a page in the 8-page daily newspaper I read while eating my breakfast of grits are a testament to the deaths. These consistent reminders throw a wrench in the gears of my normal world view, but maybe that’s a good thing this time of year: a time for reflection and resolution.

there’s more...

What Makes A Beer Friday?

The original equation went something like,
beer + studiomates + friday = x

Over time, the equation has morphed into something more like,
beer (bottles + growlers + kegs) + studiomates + great friends (neighbors + colleagues + clients + kids + out-of-towners) + video games (rocking + singing + dancing) + theme (costume + craft + movie) + friday = x

In both instances, x = Beer Friday, and while the equation may have, um, expanded over the past year, the heart of the matter is still very much the same. All that’s really necessary to the success of the formula is to get amazing people in a shared space with a shared motive of relaxing and having a good time. That’s really what our co-working space Studiomates is all about.

Now on to this particular, most recent, December 3rd Beer Friday…

there’s more...